Kate Livingstone: Paper and pen beat smelly old candles
I’ve always hated the phrase ‘me time’, which I consider one of those smug, trite phrases that are a code for spending money you don’t need to spend. (Or drinking, which comes to the same thing really, when you think about it.)
But I like to think that when I’m wrong I’m prepared to admit it – and I’m learning that there’s an awful lot more to self-care than overpowering candles and bath bombs.
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Hide AdI also liked to think of myself as someone who doesn’t do stress – now I know it doesn’t quite work like that.
I do remember last year when I thought I was going mad I had so many dates and things to remember whirling round my head that I bought myself a good, old-fashioned diary.
Now, bear with me.
While this might seem like a ridiculously obvious thing to do, I should point out that it wasn’t that I didn’t have a diary as such.
I was using my phone’s online calendar, which I regarded as a lifeline and a kitchen calendar to scribble on quickly.
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Hide AdBut what I wanted was to physically write on paper exactly what I had to do and when. I needed a diary.
I couldn’t explain, I just knew that I felt a lot better and more in control.
So I was interested to read an article recently explaining how the act of handwriting has huge benefits – helping us remember and process what we’re doing.
I am aware that most people function perfectly well without this – but self-care is about deciding what’s important to you when it comes to your health and wellbeing.
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Hide AdThe other thing that’s important is to not to dismiss your need for self-care by comparing yourself to others.
Yes, there are some people who have it harder but they’re not your responsibility.
A good analogy is putting your own oxygen mask on the plane before adjusting anyone else’s.
If you’re like me, you’re looking at a busy few weeks ahead, so recharge your batteries while you can. But do it your way – no-one else’s!
So if you like scented candles, get them lit.
Me? I’ll choose a good book and a cup of coffee ... I’ll even pencil some time in my diary.